The Human Touch....... People are starving for it
Why? Because I wanted to be more connecting than just my name. I learned something very important after my husband died in 1984. I was left with a baby girl and a young son. I found later that when someone would hug me. (I am talking the hug of friendship and caring NOT sexual hugs or touches) That I was immediately uplifted and renewed in my outlook and it boosted my morale.
I of course was able to hug my own children and they me, but the touch of sincere caring from a adult was huge. Even today the touch of others during the week will def. have a impact on my 'joy" for the week!
I have facilitated many groups over the years and one thing is common. When our groups would meet or leave the ladies would hug each other. At first I would see some felt very awkward hugging or like my background would not hug but allowed to be hugged. Soon however you would see those same hesitant people seeking hugs and giving hugs before long. And most importantly many would stay and look forward to our meetings not because of the content of what we talked about or did but because they craved the human touch so much that they needed to come once a week or month for them!
In my background was sexual abuse from a relative. This with the ingredient that hampered my ability to hug. Plus that my dad was taught from his family not to hug. So he did not hug. Thus I grew up with no hugs much except from my mother. I did not think much about this. I grew up not wanting to be touched because of those two ingredients. Thinking hugging was for sissies or that a hug meant that person hugging could mean they just wanted sex. This is surely a deception satan has instigated.
The human touch is vital to our children's self worth. Hugs and reaching out to hold their hand, or touching their arm when talking to them with eye contact. This is needed daily for kids!! Out of love, kindness and compassion not anger, sex, or manipulative reasons.
I belive a lot of the problems teens have today is lack of sincere touch from parents. Just look at our society. How much time is spent in contact. Most is through phones, emails, texts not really with others. We do not learn to touch correctly and without sexual intent. We were created by God for human contact and love. The sincere love of one human for another. Contact with a hug, or touch actually has physical health benefits. Look up "human touch/ hugs" on the internet. There are many new findings to this fact.
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Health Benefits of Human Touch eases pain helps with infant growth enhances vital signs stabilizes body temp can communicate positivity helps provide better sleep reduces irritability increases sociability strengthens relationships strengthens immune system helps with depression increases proper digestion releases serotonin enhances a sense of well-being stimulates oxytocin – the cuddle hormone slows heart rate – lowers blood pressure lowers the stress hormone cortisol gives comfort and relieves sadness can help us feel happiness & joy releases tension & tightness helps migraine pain - See more at: http://www.exhibithealth.com/general-health/health-benefits-of-human-touch-1345/#sthash.eOLRbjbT.dpuf
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