I now pronounce you Husband and Wife
For many the search is done, the prayers answered and now you are married to the person you love the most. The perfect companion and you will live happily ever after. Well, at least the fairy tales go like that.
If you are married or about to be married or expect to marry, do you know the cost? Have you studied how God wants you to see marriage and what is your role in this union between man and wife?
I am greatly saddened how we are programed to believe about relationships in this world. From as young as, what? TEN girls are now dressing, acting like they are in a mating search. Have you ever watched the funny ways birds and other animals act when it is time for mating? The pomp and fluff is quite comical ! But why I feel sad is because instead of people just enjoying being young they put all this effort and anxiety into having a serious relationship before they are ready.
Instead of learning who they are as individuals, and the plans for their life they start going steady, or"hooking up"( for my older readers that means a night of sex but rarely any commitment.)
Most shows do this all the time! A couple who are physically attracted are portrayed, so they go to bed together as soon as they meet!
This is WRONG. It is no different than the animals of the wild and even some of them have better mating habits. At least the geese mate for life and some others. It is like we are going back to the stone age of "Me like you, we have sex now" mentality. No thought of the future, the consequences. The unwanted children, who then are neglected or abused. Or in our throw away world, just kill the baby before it is born.
What about waiting for sex. What about finding all the things you really want to do in life. I did it all wrong when I was young too. I know what I am talking about, I KNOW the consequences of this route.
I actually went to my dad when I was about to graduate. I wanted to go to college and study art and design. It was my passion. I also loved animals and loved training them. I wanted to live on a ranch and raise animals. Arabians and herding dogs.
But My dad told me woman were to get married and have kids and stay at home. He would not send me to college. I SHOULD have gotten two jobs and worked my own way through college but sadly I did not. I had sex outside of marriage, when I did marry I married for all the wrong reasons and my marriages failed. Yes Marriages! Not once or twice. I had no instruction on living a life as God had planned. I lived on feelings and let go of my dreams.
Photo of my dad and mom a few years after they were married.
Thankfully God has a instruction book for people. Lets read what the Holy Word of God says about husband and wife in 1 Peter 3:
Wives Submission to Husbands
A Word to Husbands7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker (or more fragile, some one who needs their strength) vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.
8 Finally, all of you be of one mind, having compassion for one another; love as brothers, betenderhearted, be courteous;[a] 9 not returning evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary blessing, knowing that you were called to this, that you may inherit a blessing. 10 For
And see good days,
Let him refrain his tongue from evil,
And his lips from speaking deceit.
11 Let him turn away from evil and do good;
Let him seek peace and pursue it.
12 For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous,
And His ears are open to their prayers;
But the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.”[b]